Many of you know I have a campaign 'children deserve to know where they come from'. Set it up 12 years ago in the UK, to avoid anonymity (egg and sperm donation). I speak out about children's rights to know of their origins before the age of 18. People who raise the child are the 'real' parents, but a HUGE percentage of donor conceived kids want to know where they come from, and actually to meet the donor.
ABC recently shared the Sperm Donors Anonymous film.
I have spoken openly about this - see Sixty Minutes. Also been the victim of a horrific piece by the Telegraph after talking to a reporter for months about the campaign. I should have sued, as clear defamation. Let's face it, if I was doing anything even the remotest bit 'illegal' as the headline suggested, I wouldn't be still be running the site, so many years later.
Of course the media usually wants a shock story. And yet it is very simple. I want all kids to know where they come from. I have written stories so that parents who used IVF can start discussions with their kids. I do believe that everyone deserves the right to be a parent. But more and more men now want to know who will be raising their bio child, even if not them. That's why they join my site, and THEN go through a clinic.
The site, set up in 2003, was so that children can learn of their origins - which they don't if a sperm bank is used. Baby Roma's story shown below, in book form and through the Sixty Minutes Documentary.
Many AU fertility clinics will admit, off the record, that they ask their would-be-parents to find a donor through FSDW and then come to the clinic for testing and the treatment. Why? A real shortage of donors willing to donate without knowing who will be the recipient.
Yes, assisted reproduction is controversial. But I think there should be options for those needing help, but also wanting to be able to answer questions their kids have. And for the past 12 years I have been a part of knowing that at least some children aren't faced with 'Im sorry, I don't know the answer to your questions about your origins.'
This is just one of the things I do to speak out for those who have no voice. Some have not yet even been born.