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News - In order to more fully protect the rights of women, children
born through private sperm donation and of course genuine men who have agreed to donate sperm privately
Emma and a group of experienced donors, lawyers and fertility specialists are in the process of
creating a charitable organisation simply called Private Sperm Donations (PSD)
and it will be launched here.
Donors who agree to abide by the Code of Conduct will be able to let women know that they are a
member of PSD, in good standing and are aware of, and agree to follow good practice and behave
ethically at all times, as outlined by the PSD Ethics Committee.
If you are intereated in learning more, or being a part of PSD please visit www.Free-Sperm-Donations.com

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Sperm Donations Chat

An exciting, useful new page for Free Sperm Donations Worldwide members, or those
considering joining!
** Official chat forum here shortly **
Share your experiences, ask others for advice or information about becoming
pregnant through sperm donations- discussions about artificial insemination, donor conception!

Sperm donors please do use this page to offer info from your persepctive, and
to post your tips and advice etc, but please
do not post your 'available to help' messages here- either use the Message Boards
(you get a free message when you JOIN) or please do sign up as a private sperm donor!

It's free to post your question although we strictly monitor this board- for example
you would not be able to ask for donors to
contact you through this page- you need to use the Message Boards.if you are looking for a donor.

This is a discussions board, so that women and infertile couples can
discuss donor conception and the pros and cons
of becoming pregnant- conceiving using fresh sperm using artificial insemination.

Post Your Questions and Comments about Assisted Pregnancy- Artificial Insemination using Fresh Sperm

Donations Chat Board

Hi Folks and welcome to the new page- please get started sharing experiences and
asking others to volunteer to share tips and info etc!

Your response to Free Sperm donations Worldwide has been really positive and it's so great to
hear of all your pregnancies!

Stay Safe Everyone

Emma x
FSDW Site Creator and Moderator

Comment Only

Hi Emma,

I should have emailed before now but I have been very busy with our beautiful 6 month old son.
Thanks to your hard work we found a genuine donor and our son is everything we could have wished for and more.
Our donor has also offered to help us again in the future with a sibling for our son and to complete our family.

We can't begin to thank you enough

THANK YOU

Sarah (London)

I had to post this - I find this justification for requesting sex from a sperm donor quite bizarre
- luckily most of our donors offer fresh sperm in a clinical and non-personal manner which ensures that the woman
feels respected, and it's not too awkward of an experience. Sometimes though, I get cr*p like this...

Aug 08

I initially wrote to him as I believe him to be creating multiple profiles which is not permitted.

Did you want this as your one and only profile? Only one allowed per person.
Thank you Emma

Hi Emma,

I don't know about multiple profiles. I am only one person so I will stick with this one profile.
Just one question: I don't like the idea of artificial insemination. Can I specify natural conception?
Regards,
**** (removed for privacy)

Hi- FSDW members are only interested in AI and are offended by anything else- which is why they join here rather than other
sites/ forums. They need the guy to ejaculate in another room and bring them the cup so they can inseminate in private.
We are clamping down re the behaviour code, so anyone offering anything other than AI will be removed. We just need
donors who are offering to help for altruistic reasons, rather than anything sexual.
Many thanks
Emma

Hi,

> Inserting sperm into th cervix or uterus via the vagina seems fairly sexual to me no matter what method you use.
To eliminate the father in the> equation doesn't seem fair on the child. What about the child's right to know his/her father?
A child isn't a possesion.

Regards,

DS******

The woman does the insemination herself or with her partner - the donor is just that, someone to provide the sperm.
He is absolutely not to be involved sexually. The method has nothing to do with eliminating the father out of the question
- in the same way as using a fertility clinic and IVF.
You make your own arrangement- if you and the recipient agree that you are to be a known donor then the child can find out about you.
The method of conception has nothing to do with that agreement.

Through FSDW we offer a site where women can find a donor who will help them become a parent- thats all they want.
They dont want anything sexual or intimate with the sperm donor. If they want that they will get that from a
partner. Sex is NOT what this site is about. I think you need to donate elsewhere- Im sure there are woman out there who
would have sex with you- but we are absolutely not encouraging that on the FSDW site and you need to do that elsewhere
if thats what you want from helping. Our donors do this in a clinical and non-personal way- giving the woman a cup and leaving.
Their payment is getting the satisfaction from helping. If thats not what you want from this there are lots of other sites
where you can state that you want sex from it.
Hope thats clear.
Emma

Dear Emma,

I am not after sex with lesbians. I am only concerned for the rights of the child. Maybe you need to consider this some more.
Assuming that the child will want nothing to do with it's father because of the nature of the parents is wrong.
A child does have rights and is not a possesion like a lounge suite bought on the shared account.
Please view the following quote:

"On websites, unhappy donor kids are beginning to speak up. "I believe that it is a tragic turn for our society to celebrate fathers who intentionally disconnect themselves from their children," writes the proprietor of Whosedaughter.com. "I'm 18 and for most of my life, I haven't known half my origins," Katrina Clark wrote in a Washington Post op-ed this past fall.
Donor conception has always been about making adults happy, not children, she continued. As a child, she found herself
jealous of a friend whose parents were divorced; at least the girl got to visit her father."
from 'The Incredible Shrinking father', by Kay S. Hymowitz


D****- Im talking about how you offer sperm.

Im not talking about the child- Im a child behaviour therapist known world wide as The Child Listener
- I think you will find I know a fair bit about the subject.

Penetrating a woman has NOTHING to do with a child and the child's rights.

If you are unable to only offer fresh sperm, in a cup, please delete your
profile. Many thanks Emma

> Dear Emma,
>
> Using the word 'penetrating' gives the impression of a violent act against the woman. Intercourse is a loving act between
two consenting partners and this love is transfered to the child as are the predominant moods of the mother during pregnancy
(this is the latest research). Inserting sperm using syringes and turkey basters even though sexual in nature, does not result
in the same love tranference, if it is as you say, equivalent to a 'pap smear'. I'm suprised you take such a clinical approach
to the subject
given your expertise.
>


I really am not going to discuss this further - its ridiculous!!- there is no 'loving act' when its two strangers- which is what a donor is. 
'Love transference'??? Seriously? Are you kidding me???

Please clarify that you are offering fresh sperm through AI - ie in a cup and given to the woman- or I will delete
your profile and block you.

Your arguments are ridiculous.

And even if you really do believe what you are saying, trust me- as an reknown expert in this field- doing it in a clinic
manner is a necessity if you are to respect the mother's rights.
If you really are interesting in ensuring the woman is calm and relaxed, and has moods during pregnancy that are of a
positive nature, you will not attempt to persuade her to have sex. She doesnt want a relationship with you- she wants a child. You are simply a donor.  If you arent happy with that dont do it.

If you want to be a known donor, to to be involved in the child so that he ir she grows up knowing the father then go for it- good on you.
But penetrating the mother has nothing to do with that. You can do that with a lesbian couple also - ie ensure the child knows you.
Absolutely every child should have the right to know where they come from- and Im happy to discuss that at any time
- as a professional, But what you are talking about here is the insemination- and that you want to do it by having sex.
Thats not related to the child and their rights at all.

If you only want to produce a child with someone through 'love transferance' you can only do that with someone you love and are in a relationship with. Ive never heard such a load of rubbish in my life- dont justify wanting freebie sex by bringing the rights of the child, or development during pregnancy into it. I have a specialist in this area...what you are saying is complete twaddle.

The development and rights of the child has NOTHING to do with how the sperm is inserted into the vagina. The rights of the
woman absolutely had everything to do with it. No woman should have to be violated just to become pregnant. And a
stranger's penis in her body- a person she has no attraction for or desire to have a relationship with- is a violation.
It is considered by most to be taking advantage of a vulnerable woman, who is desperate for a child. Dont stoop that low.

If you want sex go somewhere else.

The site is VERY clearly set up to only allow donors who will donate for free, using AI. So regardless of what you think,
if thats not what you are offering then please delete your profile immediately as you are in breach of the behaviour code.
www.free-sperm-donations.com/behaviour_code.htm

You are trying my patience.
Emma
FSDW Site Creator and Moderator

Name: Lisa

Message: Hey all.

I just wanted to get feedback from the women who have gone through the experience, and find out
what problems they encountered.

I'm currently trying to get to grips with ovulation times. The kits tell you to test a lot earlier than I would have thought.
Did anyone have any surges quite a few days before predicted ovulation via temperature?

I think this site is a great idea, and I'm really hoping things work out for me via this method. Just want to get it right!

Please email me!

I am now 22 weeks pregnant, after just two trys!  This is a splendid service you are providing.
There would have been no other way for us. 
We were very lucky and had a very nice donor (as I'm sure most are, however, I still believe that no matter
how desparate you are, you must still move forward with caution. The first potential donor may not be the best one for you.  Try to be rational, and if you have a bad feeling, then don't move forward at that time.
 
Again thank you for your help.  I hope the rest of my pregnancy goes as smoothly as the first 22 weeks!

Comment Only

If you know of good donor testing facilities - for STDs, HIV etc- doctors, clinics etc- please can you send us info
so we can post on the site- thanks!
Em:-)

Could you please tell me the best type of syringe to use i have a plastic one but not sure its long enough?

Email us your comments and we will pass on- or if you are a registered donor or member please logon and contact 'Lena'
Thanks!

Re legalities of using fresh sperm from a donor- please read free info on the site and remember that this is info
we have gained through research- we are not legally trained. Basically there is no legal precident- for centuries
people have been coming to private arrangements with no problem. Technically however fresh sperm donation
(in the UK at least) is seen as no different than having intercourse, so the legalities are the same- ie the UK
donor could go to court to prove paternity and seek contact, and the woman could do the same, and seek
financial support. No-one on our site has had problems with this in two years- and as I said, there have been no
legal cases to date so people are obviously not having a problem sticking to their arrangements. We recommend
that you create an agreement to that effect and put it in writing- ie show clearly your intent. Understand however
that this in not a legally binding agreement and is not at this time legally enforceable as there have been no
related cases and the law does not recognise this issue. It will certainly help though, if either party decides to break this agreement for some reason. Its about risk and weighing up what feels right to you- and this is why meeting
your donor is so important. If in doubt about his character or intentions use a sperm bank- however in the UK
there are now no anonimity laws so your offspring can now track down 'Daddy' at age 18. Again this is why donors
choose to help through our site- so they dont have that issue- most donors and members create hotmail addresses
and take steps to protect themselves from being traced after conception ie make their own decision about how to do
this. Whats most important however is what you are trying to achieve- a baby! Nothing in life is a certainty so
research your decision and do whats right for you!  Emma:-)

Comments?- send them and we will post!

Username KandA

Email: ksprig@blueyonder.co.uk


Message: Me and my partner are very new to this and would appreciate any advice at all. We would also like to
know how others have done any medical testings.
 
We are worried about testing for HIV etc. Any info you could give us on how other members have fared would be much appreciated.
 
Thanks so much for this

Emma's answer; I suggest you go to your local private medical practice and ask about private testing/ STD
screening. Its the same as heterosexual couples who are
being sensible before sleeping together - they could go and ask for AIDS and STD checks. Most of our members
do that- although many donors do this
regularly so they have certs as they organise it themselves.
Good luck! Em

Hello Em,

First of all I'd like to say what a GREAT site I think this is!  I've  had a really positive experience overall, and have now met a donor 
who seems really genuine and just about perfect!  For me to say that  (the girl who's always been too picky to settle for second best and 
hence is still single at 39!) he must be good!  There were some  members who didn't reply so i can let you have their names if that 
will save other recipients some disappointment and effort - would you  like me to do so through the feedback form or to you direct?

I'm after a little advice now if that's possible please. My donor is very happy to have testing done, but neither he nor
I know who will  do this for him, and what we should ask for. I do have some idea of  the tests from a fertility clinic
website, but perhaps more  importantly, I am drawing a blank investigating where he should go  for the tests. 
Obviously I'd like both STD/HIV tests and sperm  quality/quantity etc. as he has never fathered a child. 
I understand  from both NHS Direct and the National Gamete Donation Trust that UK 
fertility clinics and GPs are both likely to say no, which I have to  say really worries me for many women out there. 
Do you have any  ideas at all as to where the tests can be carried out?  Of course I'm  expecting and willing to pay. 
The donor lives in **** (in the  UK), if that's relevant info.

I'd really appreciate your help on this one; I've looked on the site  and found reference to your desire to set
up a database of testing  centres, but can't find the database itself.  Please can you help me  get a step
closer to my dream?  I've done a lot of research and my  decision to go for fresh sperm and this donor in
particular is a very  well informed one which I want to approach responsibly by having the 
tests done.

Thanks so much in advance - and keep up the great work!!

Best wishes,
****

Emma's reply- HI and thanks for the positive feedback- yes, plese let me have the names of donors
who fail to respond - I have a 3 strikes and youre out rule!
Some find it really difficult to send a polite- 'sorry I can thelp you' message - and thats all thats needed really.
They cant donate to everyone! But we expect everyone to be
mutually respectful and sensitive. So Ill look into it for you by writing to them to check their status.

Re testing- you should be able to go to any private practice and just pay for them- ask at your local BUPA if they
do that and how much (and let us know!)
If anyone was concerned about STDs and HIV Im pretty sure their doc would be under an obligation to get them
tested on the NHS? Anyone have a comment on that, or info?
Any docs out there?
Also, if he went in and said he was wanting to sleep with his new partner for the first time but they
were both being responsible and wanted to check they were both 'clean'- surely he is able to get tested
They do testing for that reason as a matter of course in some countries, eg Sweeden- who also happen to have low rates of sexually transmitted disease! - hmm theres a co-incidence.
I cant believe it would be that difficult to get tested- its the responsible thing to do- whether its for a donation or a new sexual relationship?

I am wanting to set up a datasbase of testing centres- Im just not having any luck getting contact details
and addresses to add as yet!

ANYONE HAVE ANY INFO?
PLEASE EMAIL ME WITH WITH USEFUL INFO - Em:-)

Feedback: Hi, I joined your sie looking for a donor, that aside I am disappointed that you allow members to state
'no lesbian couples', if I were to say no black donors I hope that I would be thrown off the site, homophobia is illegal
as is racism. You cannot claim to be equal opps and tolerate this, I hope you can reconcile this, *****  Submit

Hi all- I have heard that a sperm donor who calls himself "Andrew" - and Recommended Donor / Proven Donor,
super swimmers, 1979guy, AAA, 1, Family Guy..(.I think his name is Andrew Loxley? ) to name a few- has now been
officially banned from the FSDW site and that this is only the second banned since FSDW was set up.
I have heard he is obsessive- emailing anyone and everyone offering to donate his sperm- he has even contacted
some of us (donors!) and has told people that he has already had about 13 pregnancies- when's the guy going to stop???
I also heard that he charges 40p per mile and other expenses- and around £100- 200 to send his sperm via a taxi to you?!
Hes offering a regular little business- he will be charging for 'bespoke packaging' soon! Sounds like a complete nutter to me!!!
Narcissistic. I spoke to one woman who says hes really full-on- and also pushes for 'natural insemination'- looking for a
freebie sex session if you ask me- she was really concerned about him and I heard that he has even tried to register again
- despite Emma banning him. He seems to be a bit of a nutter.
Keep up the good work Em- we need sites like this- and dont need private
sperm donors like him giving us genuine donors a bad name!!!
Ollie (sperm donor)

He contact me too- I told Emma I was concerned and Im glad she banned him- I found him really spooky.
Anyway, the good news is that Im now pregnant!
**** (removed for privacy)

Hi guys- this donor has told me, though his lawyers, that he will not register again. He has been banned- I am at
liberty to use my discretion in banning donors from my site, and for some reason he believes I dont have that right. Go figure.
Please dont ask me why he was banned- and just leave it at that.
Hopefully he will respect my rights as the web site owner and not try to gain access to my member's only area again- if not I will
have to take out an injunction. It's like someone coming into your house when uninvited - its trespassing on my cyer space lol.
Anyway, let's move on....Im sure we have more interesting things to discuss- and we can do that in my new chat forum
- launched shortly, yeah!!
Em:-)

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