Welcome from Emma
'Hi Everyone!- I'm passionate about being a a Mom and
helping others create their own family, 
within the
modern, rapidly changing world.
Join me!- and together
we can develop a intelligent, kind, safe and responsible community.
Help me find answers for overcoming the associated risks relating to private sperm donation arrangements worldwide.
I have been proactively supporting
single women, gay and infertile couples who are emotionally and financially
ready to not only become pregnant, but also to meet the needs of their child in the short and long term since 2003.
I also feel that men should have more options regarding who they donate to, and on what terms
- and be protected legally.
Creating Choices. Building Happy Families! Welcome to the FSDW Site
Em:-) x
The Child Listener- also known as 'The DIY Baby Maker'
Emma@DIY-Baby.com
* Read a few testimonials - from people who have used FSDW to get pregnant and have a baby
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Why join as a Free Sperm Donations Worldwide (FSDW) subscriber? Support and safety!
-connect with genuine sperm donors in the Member's Only Area- moderated by The Child Listener™ herself. All agree to abide by the FSDW Behaviour Code which helps create a community of like minded people- promoting safe and responsible sperm donation arrangements.
Make use of free sperm donor agreement docs, share experiences in blogs, ask Emma your questions about home self insemination / AI, through to a focus on what happens after conception- ie meeting the needs of children born through sperm donation.
FSDW Members can also place a FREE message on the : 'Sperm Donor/ Co-Parenting Donor Wanted' Message Boards No time limit!
FSDW was created by 'The Child Listener™ in 2004,
while living in the UK.
FSDW now has over 3200 registered
sperm donors
and is arguably the most reputable and successful connections
site within the
private sperm donation community.
Today there are around:
1200 UK sperm
donors
1100 USA sperm donors
360 Australian sperm donors
160 Canadian sperm donors
90 New Zealand sperm donors and
300+ donors in other countries,
registered
within
the Member's Only area waiting to hear from single women,
lesbian and infertile couples!
Contact them directly today!.
All you pay is your membership subscription- to contact sperm donors in the DIY Baby™ (Sperm Donation Connection) 'members only' area. The rest is up to you and your chosen donor!
These membership fees enable Emma to operate and moderate the site,
and donors report a 'higher level of commitment' from members who
are prepared to pay a membership- even though it is less than most pay for their coffee each month!
The Child Listener™ is particularly passionate about private sperm donation as she wants to create a community where getting pregnant is not the only consideration- that before even finding a sperm donor- or choosing to donate sperm- that the needs of the child born from sperm donation are considered.
The Child Listener™ is a well known family therapist and child behaviour advisor- and offers a range of professional services for men, women and couples interested in becoming pregnant through AI and then co-parenting - and also for those interested in learning more about raising a child born from sperm donation. As children want to know 'where they come' - to know their 
heritage (their 'roots') Emma would much prefer that people make their own private arrangement- despite the risks associated (that are eliminated or reduced when you use a clinic) When choosing a sperm donor - even if you do not wish for any contact post conception- you are going to chat to the donor and meet him face to face- and can give at least a description to your child. This isn't really the same when using a sperm bank- when you never actually meet the donor- you cant really 'visualize' him as a real person- and therefore it is difficult to describe him, and talk about him, to your child. However the law is still very behind in recognising private sperm donation arrangements - and Emma also offers free info about advice in this regards.
More about Meeting the Needs of Children Born From Sperm Donation here
Emma is often asked "Why do FSDW donors donate sperm without charge,
if not to co-parent?
One told her
"It is the most amazing feeling, and the genuine donors that I talk to share the same highs and
lows with the girl at the end of the dreaded 2 week wait...".
I am attaching a picture of I
*******, she was my first success
at
AI, again thanks
to your
wonderful website.
(photo removed for privacy)
If you are a registered FSDW and would like to share your story
please contact Emma
FSDW is set up very much like a dating site
- except members are looking for
sperm rather
than a partner!
When you join FSDW you will be sent login details, and then have access to the database of sperm donors
- and can update info in your profile, add photos etc.
There is an internal messaging system
- you can use that to send and receive messages, or click on the bottom
of their profile and this email is sent directly to them (you don't see their email address) They will see the email
address you specify. You will then start corresponding. If something doesn't feel right trust you instinct- and
let me know if any donors appear to want payment or sex. That would be in breach of our Behaviour Code.
Sperm donors register, offering to donate sperm for free - AI only-, and as such will want to find a suitable match in the
same way you do - so if you use this site please do accept that it may take time to find the right one, and you
will need to have lots of patience. Put as much info in your profile as possible, so that registered sperm donors can get an idea of your
personality and the type of arrangement you are looking for. We ask all FSDW donors to at least
reply with a polite 'sorry,
I cant help you' if this is the case- however if donors fail to respond, or respond inappropriately, please do let me know.
It is by using member feedback that I can monitor what is going on and try to keep the site a safe and respectful place to
correspond with one another.
Members can also use a free private sperm donor agreement document outlining their agreed arrangement with donor
- just get this signed
and notarised to clearly state your intention.
When you think you have found the 'right donor' you need to decide what sperm donor tests etc you require- and there are
usually places you can get your donor tested for free- eg in the UK you just go to your local NHS GU
clinic for same day
STD and HIV testing and results. Some of our sperm donors are registered with
sperm banks and have that info to show you already.
When you are happy that all is going to your satisfaction you will need to make your arrangement re
collection of
fresh sperm ready for self-insemination, or make an arrangement with him to donate to a clinic. If you meet him in person to
collect fresh sperm ideally you need to inseminate twice within the 48 hours prior to ovulation. There are only a
few days in your cycle when it is possible to become pregnant. Please do not waste your sperm donor's time- monitor your cycle
prior to starting
insemination meetings. We include ovulation charting and testing sticks in the DIY Baby™ self-insemination kit.
'How do I collect the sperm from my donors and what is the
best way to self-inseminate?'
Most members arrange to meet their sperm donor at a safe place, where he will ejaculate in another room, and then
offer you the fresh sperm in a wide rimmed plastic container and leave. Take someone with you. Wait until the
sperm has gone from cloudy to clear and inseminate with plastic syringe as quickly as possible.
Read Self-insemination info on the site or buy a DIY self-insemination kit
If your sperm donor donates to a clinic the sperm will be quarantined for six months to be sure it is safe with regards to HIV etc
-ask for options at your local sperm bank/ clinic. Many of our members use this site as they would prefer to
know something about the biological father of their child- even if there is no active involvement. Members usually choose
a sperm donor who closely resemble someone they would date, or would be friends with.
You cant get that personality information etc from a sperm donor catalogue. Donors also say that they prefer to donate in this way
so they can actually know something about the woman/ couple who is to parent a child created using their sperm.
Through FSDW Emma aims to offer choices for all.
The site is maintained using subscription fees- and so I do not issue refunds unless a donor you wanted to contact
(on the public pages)
is no longer listed in the members area. On occasion donors delete their profiles and don't let me know,
although this doesn't happen often.
Please note that this is very similar to a dating site- I can't guarantee anything, and please do consider if this is really right for you!
If not you may wish to use a sperm bank - many are listed in the Sperm donation directory and will be listed more
comprehensively on our new DIY Baby web site.
Em:-)
FSDW Site Creator- also known as The Child Listener
DIY Baby™- self-insemination info,
home self-insemination kit
Should we legalise private sperm donations?
In a changing world many individuals and couples who may in the past have had to forgo being parents- single women, lesbian and infertile couples, sperm donation has become ever more popular. However it has also become increasingly expensive- and often invasive. Even if they can afford it, can still often remain unavailable to certain groups, or involve years on a waiting list. The USA offers perhaps the easiest options- many delivering vials directly to your place of residence for home self-insemination- without even the need for a consultation with your doctor. It comes at a price. For example the The California Cryobank now sells 30K vials of sperm a year, which cost up to $500 each. An insemination through a private doctor’s office can run over a $1,000 for each pregnancy attempt.
I myself was considering ordering from a US sperm bank in 2003- being single, and wanting to have another child before it was too late- and reluctant to wait even longer for my Mr Right to arrive. As I found the 'search' process fairly time consuming I decided to create my own web site- 'Sperm Donors Worldwide' - and link with the sperm banks who would sell fully tested sperm online- to be shipped overseas. To my surprise, within a short period of time men were registering to help women directly- and didn't want payment- they simply wanted to help. There are now over 3000 registered. The launch coincided with the abolishment of anonymous sperm donation in the UK; so many men were left with wanting to donate- but on their terms. Many also wanted to have some choice in who they donated to- preferably by actually corresponding with and meeting the woman or couple. At first a question I was often asked was- 'why would men donate their sperm without payment? What do they get out of it?' Women and couples – and the media – seemed unable to understand this. As a donor posted on FSDW (Sperm Donors Worldwide soon changed to Free Sperm Donations Worldwide) - see above-
'"It is the most amazing feeling, and the genuine donors that I talk to share the same highs and lows with the girl at the end of the dreaded 2 week wait...".I am attaching a picture of I *******, she was my first success at AI, again thanks to your wonderful website.'
This donor has since helped many individuals and couples- developing positive relationships and offering to help with siblings if required. To me, this is the ideal solution. An agreement that is honoured by both parties- which results in far more sharing of information and flexibility.
As a child behaviour advisor the rights and needs of the child outweigh those of the parents – and my concern with sperm donation through clinics is that the women or couples do not meet the donor- and can provide limited information when asked questions by their child about 'Daddy'. This isn't such an issue with infertile couples- but it is with single women and lesbian couples. Every child wants to know where the come from- their 'roots'- who their biological father is- their 'other' relatives. They know every child has them- it does take a man and woman to create a child- even where sex is not involved! They want to know if they get their love of sports from him- or their hatred of maths..or flair for art etc. Children ask questions- and usually when provided with age appropriate, honest answers their self-image is not harmed. It is when there is secrecy or issues are avoided that problems arise. They need information not only for themselves- but also as they will be asked in the playground about their family set up. If there is no male role model around imagine their feelings on 'Father's Day'- especially when not handled sensitively by teachers. Being raised by a single parent- or lesbian couple- doesn't mean they won't fare well- in the same way being raised by a straight couple doesn't mean they will necessarily do well- however there are doing to be more difficulties in most respects, when not in a traditional set up (even though that very definition is rapidly changing- what is 'traditional' or 'normal' any longer?) So rather than hide our heads in the sand we should address this- for the sake of our children.
Private arrangements could offer men the opportunity to help- not only by providing their sperm- but also answers. They can feel great about helping- and knowing their blood line will continue- but without the financial obligations. Private arrangements can help people work out what is best for them- and for the child they create. The current system does not recognise this and likes to put people in boxes. Unfortunately this means that many men are cautious about helping- scared of being chased for child support- and many women choose a sperm bank rather than a man who they can choose and get to know, in ways that will benefit their child- for fear that he will go to court for custody.
There is also of course the issue of health risks when private sperm donation arrangements are made- sperm donated at a clinic is tested and quarantined for STDs and HIV- and you know you really are getting what the catalogue describes. With a private donation agreement- even when the donor is tested- he can have HIV, it just isn't yet showing up in tests. A worrying thought- and very real- even when using home self-insemination (AI) rather than through intercourse. Women also need to actually meet the donor so they know it is his sperm – that he brings out in the cup. I am often asked- 'do I need to meet him in person?' Imagine 9 months later having a child of an ethnicity you didn't plan on- because he decided to play a practical joke with his buddy. So the risks- and there are more!- relating to private sperm donation are certainly worthy of consideration. If we can somehow reduce them- enable men to choose to donate to clinics to women or couples they have chosen, change the laws so that men can sign away parental rights before the child is even born etc- we could actually meet the needs of a growing number of people worldwide
For this reason I would like to see private sperm donation arrangements legalised- and for authorities, fertility clinics and specialists and lawyers to get together to work out some solutions. This is happening- we can't change that- you only need to see the social networking forums to realise how many women and couples are looking for a private sperm donor- and how many men are willing to donate. The main issue I have with these- and why I have worked hard to develop FSDW / DIY Baby™ as a supportive online community- with secure members area- is to weed out the men looking for sex or payment- and to help women and couples (and donors) find a genuine donor- without having to share personal information. They can chat within the members area, use free private donor agreement documents, and support one another. All agree to abide by a Behaviour Code- which cannot be implemented or reinforced in open chat forums. When someone is in breach their profile is removed or blocked- and the behaviour code also ensures that everyone using the site knows what is expected- and can report anyone they feel uneasy about. As I reply to everyone personally – I still moderate and run the site myself- they know they have a friend who they can chat to confidentially. There are still numerous issues we need to deal with however. Membership fees enable me to moderate the site to the best of my ability and keep it personal. I am also now working on a purely Australia web site, to help women and men connect in Australia alone- this is a country that possibly needs it more than others. Some of the practices in Australia are very 'behind' – for example a single woman cannot adopt in Australia- even from an overseas country that allows for single person adoptions. Surrogacy (altruistic) is now allowed- but it is illegal to advertise that you would like to find a surrogate- or to be one- except in one state. Finding a sperm donor is very difficult through a clinic- and costly- and yet more and more women and couples are determined to be parents. It will be interesting to see if as many men in Australia register to help (registering is free) – as there are in the UK and USA.
This is a topic with numerous issues- but that can be so rewarding. I get emails daily thanking me for creating the site- and for helping them to connect with 'their donor' – and the baby pictures on my wall give me that warm fuzzy feeling every time I look at it. My 'baby wall' is what spurs me on- to encourage people to discuss this- and to work together to find solutions- rather than sitting in judgment, or ignoring the problems associated with sperm donation- either through a clinic or private arrangements.
If you are a kind, honest man considering this please support us in our quest to give private sperm donation a better reputation and do so through a moderated site like FSDW - completely free to donors – even if looking for a co-parenting arrangement. Work with us, a growing number of people who want to help create dreams- and do so in a safe, responsible manner.
Em:-)
A few FSDW testimonials..sent from anyone who has used FSDW (Free Sperm Donations Worldwide) to
find a sperm donor.
Hi Emma, I thought you might like an update, which i have
only just got round to now because i have been so busy with my little girl! R*** was
born on 17th October and is now nearly 3 months old. I cannot describe how happy
i am, she is just perfect and
her big brother adores her! It
is thanks to this website where i found the right donor, who is also
very happy to have given our family a little girl, and we will remain friends. Thank you
so so much.
Please feel free to show this
on your site, if you do i would also like to say, congratulations to everyone who has become a parent through using this site and
lots of luck to those still waiting.
from Amy JAN 2009
have a child together whilst were still young ('ish)! Thank you for this - we'll keep you updated, hopefully a healthy happy baby before the end of the year. kind rgds h**
Hi Emma,
I have to say I stumbled across your site by chance last year. I'm so, so glad I did. We're a lesbian
couple (married for over a year now) who really
want to start a family.
We have spent a little while looking at and contacting people on the site who (mostly) have been very friendly and responded.
We have now found a truly lovely guy and met him yesterday for the first time after conversing via email for quite a while. He really is a truly genuine guy and
we have decided to proceed with him
(starting in March).
We are both so excited and pleased that we have been able to do this thanks to your site. I would like to truly thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
I will inform you when
we have success!!!
Thanks again Emma
(and the team)
D and B xxx
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Hi Emma, I thought you might like an update, which i have
only just got round to now because i have been so busy with my little girl! R*** was
born on 17th October and is now nearly 3 months old. I cannot describe how happy
i am, she is just perfect and
her big brother adores her! It
is thanks to this website where i found the right donor, who is also
very happy to have given our family a little girl, and we will remain friends. Thank you
so so much.
Please feel free to show this
on your site, if you do i would also like to say, congratulations to everyone who has become a parent through using this site and lots of luck to those still waiting.
from Amy JAN 2009
you know I'm leaving the members area. Your website has been successful in bringing together two like-minded singleton's to
have a child together whilst were still young ('ish)! Thank you for this - we'll keep you updated, hopefully a healthy happy baby before the end of the year. kind rgds h**
Baby Jake Congrats to L and C!
(hes gorgeous!!)
Hi there here are as
promised some photos of us and our little boy who we
have called Jake. He was
born weighing 9lb 9oz which was quite a shock as im
only little, hence i needed a caesarian section but it has
all been worth it as we have such a beautiful, happy and contented baby who has
made our life so complete. Nothing can compare to the feeling i have when I hold
him and he looks at me
with his gorgeous smile.
I know the midwives say
you have to wait till 6 weeks before they smile but
honestly he smiled the first
day he was born and does everyday. He totally amazes
me everyday and I feel so blessed to have the
opportunity to be a parent.
I hope that everyone has the chance on FSDW to have a baby. Its the best thing
in the world.
Thank you again,
L******, C***** and Jake x x
SUCCESS! Thank you. Please remove us and all records
from your system. We're REALLY grateful to you and of course to our donor. Feel free to publish this message but PLEASE no names.
Thank you so much.
Hi,
Hi Emma,
I have to say I stumbled across your site by chance last year. I'm so, so glad
I did. We're a lesbian
couple (married for over a year now) who really
want to start a family.
We have spent a little while looking at and contacting people on the site who (mostly) have
been very friendly and responded.
We have now found a truly lovely guy and met him yesterday for the first time after
conversing via email for quite a while. He really is a truly genuine guy and
we have decided to proceed with him
(starting in March).
We are both so excited and pleased that we have been able to do this thanks to your site. I
would like to truly thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
I will inform you when
we have success!!!
Thanks again Emma
(and the team)
D and B xxx
We are discontinuing our account at this time as we
have found an amazing donor (*****) who is willing to help both of us get pregnant. We have timed our ovulation and will be meeting for our first try this week. Thank you so much! We will let you know when we have success!!!
Hi Emma,
I want to say im sooooo
proud of what you are doing. You dont know the happiness you bring to peoples lives.
I couldnt have afforded the
cost of the sperm centres
fees and so wouldnt have
been able to get another baby ever.You have given me
the chance to hopefully have one more baby before
its too late. Ive waited 16
yrs to find the right man and couldnt so my son who
is 16 has no genetic siblings. My dad has only 2
grandkids out of his four daughters so im happy
and he will be too that he
will have another grandchild
.I just joined last week
and think I have already
found a donor in portugal
who is willing to travel here in oct for donation. ...
After meeting & being let
down 6 times by donors I thought I would never find
one I was very low and then I meet a donor who just saved me who has helpt
me so much I am due to have my baby any day now and
its all thanks to a great donor and your site and I would
like to say to members
out there who are thinking of given up to stay hopefull
the site doese work !!
. there
are good donors
out there thankyou to you for helping get my dream
maria
have just discovered....... .after the second attempt
A BABY IS ON THE WAY!!!!!!!
thought it could be so easy.
hello Emma,
Im from Western Australia.
(donor name removed)
did it for us!
I couldn't me happier
with your services.
I am 2-3 weeks pregnant
as a result!
Em,
Thank you ! We found our perfect donor on your site
and we started trying
for a baby last month. I
will let you know how successful we are, but in
the
meantime we are very greatful for getting this far.
T
hi
just to let you know
things have worked out for
me i am now pregnant after
a first go at meeting a
donor at your web site
L
that after getting in touch with our donor through your
site we are now pregnant. Thank you so much for the worthwhile work you do.
Hi Emma, hope you are well,
Just thought we best update you with our progress, We thankyou very much from the bottom of our hearts,
we are pregnant after our first
attempt, and today it was confirmed my partner
is carrying twins. Thankyou is not a strong enough word we can use. Our donor was excellent and we have be able to build up a great raport with him. Once again this service you provide has helped us achieve our dream.
C and A
Dear Emma:
Hi Emma,
Thanks for all your help.
I saw my gyneo about 2-3 weeks ago, i was given some results saying that i wasn't ovulating, so they told me to stop trying for the time being. Had to have a blood test on the 21st day of my period, but met up with a donor the following day.....turns out i took 5tests yesterday and they all come back saying that i was PREGNANT...couldnt believe it. But am only 2-3wks, but how the doctor works it out more like 6weeks. Ive cancelled my direct debit, but cant seem to do the profile.
Please let me know.
Thank you for everything you do, it really does make a huge difference.
J and A xxx
I have some more tests to complete at the doctors and will then be ready to get going,
I may purchase the fertile focus thingy at some point soon....
Please could you take my name off the list when this months subscription is up.
Many thanks for your help, I couldn't believe a site like this existed at first, it's superb
S and M xxx
Hello Emma,
I would like to notify you that we are deleting our profile.
We have successfully managed to become pregnant 
WE used donor E*** from bournemouth and after only two attempts we are going to be parents.
I will be deleting our account today and would like you to please suspend the transaction taken 28th of each month.
I would like to thank you for helping us to become parents.
Dear Emma,
I know you probably get emails like this all the time, but I couldn't not say thank you. I gave birth to my son 4 weeks ago, conceived with the help of a wonderful donor who I met through your site. I can't even find the words to tell you how grateful I am. He's the best thing to ever happen to me, and it's with your help that he's here. Thank you, so much.
N x
Hi
I'm am in a lesbian relationship and new having children would me hard. But thanks to this site it made finding a sperm donor easy, it took a few tries as it didn't work the first time. The seccond time it did, I am now 5 weeks pregnant and couldn't be happier, and it's all because of this site, I am highly greatful. I will keep you posted if you like.
RS
Hi em its s and here. We would like to tell you that we're over the moon as s is pregnant after the 1st attempt. We met our donor who a very nice person indeed and had a long chat. What you do is truly an amazing thing because without some one like you our dream wouldn't of happened. Thank you so much emma. We will keep u posted and let you know how we're doing. Thank you once more
xx
We tried for the first time last month and I'm now pregnant- thank you so much. We weren't expecting it to work first time, and didn't even do an early pregnancy test, so when I missed my period it was a complete shock. we are over the moon with happiness, and can't believe there is magic happening inside of me right now! If it wasn't for this website than our dreams could not have come true. It was so simple, and our donor was fantastic. This website is brilliant, it's wonderful and inspiring to know that there are people out there like you and our donor that just want to help.
We will send you a picture of our little one in Feb 2010.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
B and E. XX '
Hi Emma,
Thanks again, because if it wasn't for you setting up this site, we would still be in that sad and hopeless place we were last August when we joined your site.
Hi Emma,
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